I personally think that marriage does not start with someone getting a child first. Zinhle you are not a testing machine to test weather I give birth or not if he loves you he must marry you and the child is a bonus. It's not a must to have a child out of wedlock. What if I impregnate you thereafter I marry someone else not you. Let him leave if he wants to. But at the end of the day its your choice. Lobola first then give him that child.